Are you a Good Listener?(Tips)

para maiba naman topic...bigay ako tips sa Personality..para di lang katawan Improve kundi Personality natin:D(di ako perpektong tao)


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pansin ko kasi kadalasan ng tao na nakakausap ko Real Life at Chat(Facebook) eh talker...pero ako din naging talker pero di ko alam pag nag sasalita pala ang tao eh pinakikinggan ko talaga..pero di ko sinasabing good listener ako....

sa ngayun nag improve ang pagiging listener ko simula nung mag search search ako dito at kung pano iimprove..kaya madalas mas nakikinig nako..at nag kwe kwento din ako pero bihira nalang..sabihin nalang natin 80%listener + 20%talker ako...

may mga times na nagiging di ako listener kasi sobrang init at nag pupunas ako ng pawis tapos kinakausap ako tapos gusto ko mag pay pay at di ako maka concentrate sa sinasabi sakin at bihirang bihira lang mangyari yun...

pero mostly pag kinausap nako ng tao matanong,comment at advice(advice para ipakita ko na comfort ko siya kahit di ako expert sa ganung bagay).

ako naman ayaw ko i-judge mga ugali ng tao dito kasi internet lang to...at iba ang ugali ng tao dito kung ikukumpara mo sa real life:D


ok ito explain ko na yung Guide..para lang to sa mga interesado mag improve ang Listening.. at nasa bandang ibaba kung ano Advantage nito...ung pag explain ko ng tagalog eh napulot ko din yan sa iba't ibang site at sa subject namin.

ito kasing pinost kong link eh sa "How to Recognize a Good Listener" at may explanation ko naman hehe...

1.)
Listen while keeping the eye contact - This shows that you’re interested in listening to what is being said.

kapag nakikinig kayo or may nakikita kayo nag kwentuhan eh tumingin kayo sa kanya.....ipakita nyo na may interest kayo

wag naman yung parang tatagos ung tingin nyo sa kanya..basta parang ipakita nyo na interesado kayo habang nag sasalita siya sa kahit anong sasabihin nya...

at kung kayo nasa kalagayan nya tapos di tumitingin kausap nyo ..or kung saan saan nakatingin or pwede ding nag cecellphone/tetext at kung ano pa..


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2.)
See if the listener is 'in the moment'. You can tell the difference between someone who is fully in the moment with you versus someone who has their mind on something else is when you are talking to the unfocused person you will get an urge to rush through what you are saying versus when you are with a person who is totally focused on you, you will feel at home and that you have all the time in the world to say what you have to say. With a person who is totally focused on you, you will almost feel like sighing because you feel so supported and because you feel like you are truly the centre of their attention.

yun nga parang parehas din to ng number 1 ....madali mo malalaman kung poor listener/walang pakialam yung kausap mo...

at ibigay nyo ang attention nyo dun sa nag sasalita..kumbaga parang pinapakita nyo na suportado nyo siya...

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3.)
Look to see if he is responding in any fashion. A good listener will nod, smile and give you auditory feedback such as "Mm hum", "Yeah" "I see" or "No, really?" in a sincere and interested way to encourage you to continue and to indicate that they are listening.

wag kayo mag cocomment ng ganito..after nya mag kwento tapos ganito lang comment mo

Bad(Juan)
Juan : anong subject
Pedro : Math tapos nakapasa kami astig nga eh
Juan : ahh ganun ba..../ahh ok../haha/ahhh..
tapos wala na...

Good(Juan)
Juan : anong subject
Pedro : Math tapos nakapasa kami astig nga eh
Juan : ahh galing naman...ano ba mga tanong/lesson nyo dun?
Pedro : bla bla bla

tapos nasa diskarte nyo yan pano nyo tatapusin ang usapan ...pero mostly kasi pag wala na siya masabi dun ko iniiba usapan...

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4.)
Note if the listener is actually listening, or interrupting. As you are talking, they will encourage you to continue talking. For example they will say things like "That's really interesting" or "I find that interesting, please continue "or "I'd like to hear more."

un nga parang parehas din to ng number 3...bigay ako example about dito..basta kahit may parang may istorbo sa usapan nyo or di maiwasan eh tuloy padin ang pakikinig sayo nyan..

(Juan - Listener)
Pedro : kainis ung prof namin kanina
Juan : oh bakit naman?
Pedro : eh hirap ng test.
Juan : oh?bakit naman..?panong mahirap
Pedro : eh kasi wala naman sa inaral namin ung ibang tinest eh bla bla bla..

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5.)
The Listener Will Only Finish Your Sentence When Appropriate:A good listener will only finish your sentence when the timing is right, not to try to rush you through your story or to help you out when you are at a loss of words, but to show that they are on the same wave length as you.

antayin nyo siyang tapusin ang kwento nya...at wag nyo mamadaliin ang kwento nya..at kapag may nanyaring nawala siya kwento nya eh tutulungan nyo siya kung saan na ba siya sa kinwekwento nya...

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6.)
The Listener Goes By the 80% Listening, 20% Talking Rule:A good listener knows that the art of being a good listener (whether that is because they just intuitively know or because they are actually aware of the rule) will listen approximately 80% of the time during the course of the conversation and spend only 20% of the conversation talking.

Take Note : Nasa sa inyo yan kung susundin nyo to ....pero ako ganito ako..80% Listening ako at 20%Talking...at nako-control ko na din maigi ang pag kwento...

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7.)
The Listener Will Keep The Conversation Focused on Your Topic of Discussion:There is nothing more annoying than to open a conversation with someone and they change the topic on you in the middle of what you are trying to express. This often happens when the person gives you an example about themselves to show that they understand what you are saying but then they keep going with their example or take the opportunity while the attention is on themselves to switch topics. A good listener if they feel the need to use an example to back up what you were saying will keep it short and will return the conversation back to what you were talking about.

nakakaasar siguro pag nag kwento ka tapos biglang ganito

Bad
Pedro : pare alam mo kanina ung driver sa Jeep Badtrip di inabot pamasahe ko.
Juan : ahh ganyan din ako dati nung nag abot ako tapos biglang kinalimutan ba naman tapos ako sabi sa driver bla bla bla...
-wala na ang usapan napunta na sa kwento ni Juan imbis na pakikingan ni Juan si Pedro

Good(ganito dapat)
Pedro : pare alam mo kanina ung driver sa Jeep Badtrip di inabot pamasahe ko.
Juan : ahh ganyan din ako dati sobrang kainis at normal lang yan...ohh bakit ka naman naasar?

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8.)
The Listener Will Ask You Thoughtful and Open-ended Questions About What You Are Talking About:A good listener will ask you thoughtful questions that will lead you into opening up into further detail about your topic of discussion. For example, they may say something like " So you work in the Marketing Department, tell me about some of the duties that you are in charge of or what specifically are in you charge of or what aspects of your job do you love?"

mag tanong kayo..kasi pinapakita nyo interesado kayo lagi sa sinasabi nya....basta about sa sinsabi nya lagi ang itanong nyo..

o kaya pag di kayo may maintindihan sa sinsabi nya eh mag tanong kayo..


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9.)mag feedback kayo lagi sa sinasabi nya..tatlo ang Gawain ng Listener

A.Ask = mag tanong lagi tungkol dun sa kine-kwento nya...at mag tanong din pag di may maintindihan

B.Comment = mag comment..halimbawa ganito
Pedro : Pare astigkanina sa Workout ko haha 200lbs na kahit 1months palang ako nabuhat
Juan : waw lakas ah..mukhang halatang nag tiyaga ka talaga

C.Advice = oh kahit sabihin natin di tayo expert sa ganyang bagay na sinasabi nya eh advice padin tayo para ipakita ang pag comfort sa kanya...basta pag wala masyado alam sa bagay na sinasabi nya eh wag naman feeling Professional sa ganung bagay..yung tama lang..


Advantage(opinyon ko lang to at base sa aking Experience)
-Mas madami ka natutunan/nalalaman sa taong iyon
-mas magugustuhan ng tao sayo makipag kwentuhan sayo kasi sayo nila nailalabas ang sama ng loob nila
-mas magiging mabait sila sayo
-mas mag titiwala sila sayo
-mas ma appreciate ka nila
-minsan natutulungan mo sila sa problema

at marami pang iba...:D



Actually masarap talaga sa pakiramdam yung ganito para sakin...at hindi lang ako ganito..minsan pinapatawa ko din ung kinakausap ko ...dko alam pero mga kaklase ko kasi andali ko mahuli mga kiliti nila para mapatawa lagi(may moment din na korni ano haha.)..pero nasa tamang oras at lugar naman lagi..

actually di ko kayo hinahakayat kayo sa ganitong Skill..hindi ito Gift..Skill to:D

so kung listener kayo pwede nyo pa mas Masterin:D


Sana nagustuhan nyo tong ginawa ko at makatulong sa inyo

Comments

  • listenings for girls.
  • AldrinAldrin Posts: 799
    hindi...mas maganda pag sa lahat....nasa sa tao na yun kung binibigyan nya ng malisya :D
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